Im dating a single father
I used to let envy blind me badly in the past—even if a boyfriend managed to remain congenial with an ex, the whole bond made me feel rattled as hell.
Now that I'm with a person who's ex will be around in a close way forever and ever amen, I have to be OK with that. We can't let ourselves feel threatened for no viable reason.
A few years ago, I started cracking jokes regularly about hot dads.
Matters are so peachy that she even shared me on a Google Calendar she, her boyfriend, and my boyfriend share re: who has chief parenting duties when (it's half-and-half, really).
This kind of amazing camaraderie made me really look at past relationships I'd previously kept duct-taped in a box and tossed the way-back part of the closet.
This can be a difficult quality to find in this world of overgrown Peter Pans on the hunt for their own Mother figure—a person to handle all the less savory household duties, remind them to go to the doctor, praise them constantly, hinge their daily or long-term plans on what Pan wants or says he needs.
This situation is different, because he already takes on that role for his child while still taking decent care of himself.
We had a lot of wine and played loud punk and soon it was gleaming. With a child and full-time job and other luxurious duties such as bathing oneself and staying fed (AND keeping the kid fed), cleaning falls to the wayside.
Besides not having enough time to clean, kids are just miraculously mess-inducing machines. As such, I try to see this situation as an opportunity to relax my OCD tendencies and work to become a more patient, understanding person.He has developed a wisdom to help him identify the difference between the two, and if you haven't already done the same, hanging with him long enough will be educational.I've never considered my income sizable until I started thinking of the glaring fact that I don't have to split it with anyone.Cleaning is one of my favorite forms of therapy, likely because if I'm in a highly cluttered space physically, that transfers mentally and makes me feel like a stressed-out trashcan.Very early in this relationship, I suggested I help my boyfriend with an intense cleaning sesh of his kitchen.That's all his superstar ex's handiwork and maturity.)I actually muted #dadbod from Twitter and had to fake a million smiles for people trying to relate to me by bringing the meme up IRL.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating