Choosing an online dating user name

Upload seven, instructs Davis, who actually : "(1) close-up, (2) full-length, (3) close-up, (4) action shot, (5) full-length, (6) close-up, (7) action shot." Webb praises one sought-after woman's photo because "her hair and makeup didn't look overdone, but she had definitely spent time on both." In a study by the University of Rochester, women wearing red were found to be more attractive—yes, that old chestnut—and OKCupid reports that women get the most messages when their expression is flirty and their gaze is directed at the camera.

At first, Webb thought that ­women who used opening lines such as "I'm a fun-loving girl that enjoys…" and "I'm a laid-back girl who wants…" were dumbing down.

But such lightweight openers are disarming, approachable.

­Instead, focus on attributes that would specifically appeal to you, such as 'thrill seeker'." 5.

Beware of Red Flags Psychologists at the University of Wisconsin at Madison found that online daters who used fewer first-person pronouns—presumably to avoid spelling out who they really are—were more likely to be lying.

One night, after another bad match and a solo bottle of wine, Webb rejoined JDate—this time posing as a man, to check out her competition. Webb crafted 10 male profiles so perfect they had to be fake (sample code name: Jewish Doc1000) to gather data: what the site's most popular women looked like, which keywords they used, how they timed their messages.

"It seemed strange now, that I'd just slap together my online dating profile, when I'd spent days agonizing over my résumé, tweaking and massaging it to land the perfect job," Webb writes in (Duffon), one of three new books about online dating out this month, in which she ­recounts how she cracked the online dating code to meet her now husband.

And, according to Davis, when a man says "I hate drama," he means he has plenty ­already; "ready to move on" implies that he's not; the words all roughly translate to creep alert!

; and "I'm not sure exactly how to describe myself" is code for low self-esteem.

And if a profile seems short—like a guy is hiding something—he probably is. Make Contact Webb suggests keeping messages brief—98 words each, ideally—and individualized to each recipient: Ask yourself, What do I like about him?

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